Sunday, February 26, 2012

Failure is not just acceptable, it's often essential.

I feel like I have failed!  But, as Randy Pausch would say, "Failure is not just acceptable, it's often essential."

  • Almost umpteen years old and I don't even have a bachelors degree - in anything!!!
  • Had a plan to graduate this May with a bachelors degree...not happening anymore.
  • I rent a very tiny basement apartment - so I don't own!
  • As of this very moment I am the poorest I have ever been in my umpteen years!!!
  • Somehow I have two jobs (yes I got me a second job), possibly a third job coming up, yet all three put together don't even equal a full time work schedule???
  • Lastly, I feel completely embarrassed to face just about anyone because I have nothing but sad/bad news to bare.  BASICALLY I SHOULD NOT BE IN THE PLACE THAT I AM!!!
So it is where I am today.  I sat around and boo hooed for two days straight when I got pulled from student teaching.  What good does that do me or anyone else?  First I even wondered why on earth they would have me START student teaching when we didn't even know my results of the Praxis test.  So, I started teaching.  Next thing I know - I'm done student teaching.  If I want to student teach again, and even graduate, then I wait until August, which puts off graduation until next May.  Before any of that takes place I need to retake this lovely Praxis exam.  Eighty dollars later I signed up to retake this lovely test on March 10, 2012.  I'm not going to stress, or dwell on this test.  I have several times I can retake it before August, so I'm just going to kick back and live my life.  If I am supposed to student teach it will happen.  If I am not then I will go to plan B.  Whatever plan B is?  

I ask myself, what is another failed attempt at school?  How long did I keep taking chemistry before I finally passed?  Don't answer was way to many times!!!  But, I passed.  I eventually passed, and I will eventually pass the Praxis exam.  Until that time I am making use of my time here in Cedar City.  Time has been spent looking for a job, and I was blessed with a little cleaning job that will help supplement me until my summer job starts up on Grounds, yet again - thank goodness.  Life isn't going exactly how I had planned, but does it ever go as planned for anyone? 

I will take this failure and embrace it.  (I have no other choice.)  As I have just finished reading an encouraging book, "The Last Lecture," by the late Randy Pausch.  Reading this book gave me much assurance that things will work out.  Randy was an influential man during his time of teaching at a prestigious university, and reading his words makes me feel less selfish, and much less "woe is me."  For those who don't know who Randy Pausch was, he was a Professor at Carnegie Mellon University who gave a famous "Last Lecture" before he died of cancer.  This book could not have been a better book for me to pick up and read at this time in my life.  I soaked up every word of his book and kept a red pencil nearby so I could highlight many of his inspiring words.
  • We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.
  • Never make a decision until you have to.
  • Tenacity is a virtue, but it's not always crucial for everyone to observe how hard you work at something.
  • The brick walls are there for a reason.  They're not there to keep us out.  The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show us how badly we want something.
  • No matter how bad things are, you can always make things worse.  At the same time, it is often within your power to make them better.
  • Too many people go through life complaining about their problems.  I've always believed that if you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you'd be surprised by how well things can work out.
  • I've found that a substantial fraction of many people's days is spent worrying about what others think of them.  If nobody ever worried about what was in other people's heads, we'd all be 33 percent more effective in our lives and on our jobs.
And lastly, 
  • Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.
I continue forward.  Life doesn't always go the way I had planned, but it's how I deal with those "out of plan" obstacles that will shape and mold me.  Yes I can sit around and cry about how I didn't pass my test, but crying over that test will not do any good for me.  I will get off my butt, and just move forward.  That's all I can do for now, and as I'm going forward I'll enjoy the experience, even though it's not what I wanted.

{Just incase I have to turn to plan B - I'm moving to Michigan.  I'm in love, and he is a weatherman with cute glasses!!!  And I'M NOT SEEING A WEDDING RING...........}


Miss Jessie said...

Well I'm glad to see that you've changed your attitude. Now you can stop taking out your problems on me ;) I was telling you this all along, but of course you won't listen to your little sister. I like your future husband, he's cute and funny, and looks good in glasses ;)

Lucashell said...

Someone once told me if u put good energy out good stuff comes your way... Keep putting out good thoughts and something great will come your way... This is just a bump
In the road:) it will get better I'm positive it will:)

Cardine said...

I didn't see that weatherman comment coming. I'm not sure why... I should expect something like that from you.

Thanks for this post. I have been fairly frustrated with myself and my imperfections recently, and this post has given me a better perspective and attitude. I may not be perfect (or even close), but I can still work towards my goals, even if I keep failing (which I am)!

Logan and Sydney said...

Question: How did you find a weatherman in Michigan? :):):) Looks good though:)

Kim said...

Hugs to you Libby! Keep on keepin on :) Loving the book, btw!

The Life of Michael said...

Your post reminds me that I need to take the time and hopefully pass this Algebra class that I am taking for the third time. I do have a tutor and my grade is improving. I can always learn something from your blog Libby.

la Liberté said...

That weatherman is freakin' awesome! Wow. I can appreciate a good weatherman. I used to love watching Mark Eubank on KSL, and my mom even got me an autographed picture of him several years ago. I didn't have the hots for him. Just really appreciated his weatherman talent. But, I must admit, this guy is even cooler.

Well, if it helps you feel any better, my therapist told me I need to put myself in situations that I can experience more failure/mistakes and realize I will survive...So, yes, there are definite positives to having so many bumps along the way. What I admire about you is that you keep going. You keep your chin up and find all the best quotations to stay positive. You have a determination and perseverance that I really wish I had. Good luck to you!

la Liberté said...

P.S. Glasses always make guys hotter. If they are the right kind of glasses.